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The Living Inquiries - by Julianne Eanniello


Doesn’t everyone, at some point in their life, feel a sense of “I’m not good enough”, or “there’s something wrong with me?”  Don’t we all get triggered or have conflict in relationships, whether they are with our spouse, our children, our parents, or even co-workers or friends?  And don’t we all have some type of compulsive behavior?  Whether it’s around food, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, sex, doing, worrying, controlling, seeking a better experience or even seeking enlightenment?


Scott Kiloby, author of six books and countless writings on non-duality teachings, has developed a way to see through these addictive behaviors and compulsions, and to see through the deficiency stories we often unconsciously carry around with us.  He calls these methods the Living Inquiries, and they include both the Unfindable Inquiry and the Compulsion Inquiry. 


The Unfindable Inquiry offers a way to actually see the deficiency story, rather than operate and react from it, usually unconsciously.   It is called Unfindable because, when we actually go looking for the deficient self that we believe ourselves to be, we cannot find it.  All we encounter are words, sensations, emotions and images, that when combined, seem to form a “me”, a separate self.  When each of the words, sensations, emotions and images are looked at individually, there is no separate self to be found. 


The Compulsion Inquiry addresses any addiction or compulsive behavior, whether to a substance or activity.  With any compulsion, it seems as though we MUST do something...  I must eat this cake, I must have this glass of wine, I must do something, I must (insert your own response).  As though there is a command to do or eat or drink or use.  Yet when looked for directly, no command can be found.  In the not-finding of a command, the compulsion relaxes on its own.  There is no willpower involved, no judgment, no one telling you that you must quit.   Just the seeing through of the story that “I must”.  Then the behavior or substance can be had or not had, without the guilt that is usually associated with it.  Often, there is no further desire to partake in the substance or behavior. 


The results of these inquiries are profound and life-changing.  This cannot be understood with the mind.  It has to be experienced to realize the depth and power of these processes.  When the stories and compulsions are seen through, we are left to live life freely, unencumbered by self-doubt, judgment or blame.  There is a relaxation and willingness to experience all of life, as it is.


Julianne Eanniello is a Certified Living Inquiries Facilitator and Trainer.  For more information, visit her website at   For more information on Scott Kiloby, visit and  You can also join our Facebook group called “Relationship and the Unfindable Self. “



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